Finally… #UPlovin (at Dobber’s Pasties)
Makin’ a rhubarb pie
"You don’t have to look like an Under Armour mannequin to be an athlete. People probably think I don’t even try to work out, but I do. Just because you’re big doesn’t mean you can’t be an athlete. And just because you work out doesn’t mean you’re going to have a 12-pack."
- Prince Fielder
The morning after I was raped, I thought I could create another story
My good friend tarakutz shared this brilliant multimedia piece with me and it resonated with me so much. I recognized a lot of myself, my clients, my friends and family in this story. And I also respect how this is one person’s individual experience and narrative. But it got me sad and riled up too, and Tara encouraged me to share my thoughts, so here they are:
It’s a disservice that we allow each other to think our survival mechanisms are not brave. That we allow ourselves to believe in “good” and “bad” victims. I get that this is one person’s story and that she is making a specific point about rewriting her own history, but I think it is supremely brave to figure out a way to get by, to get through, to move on. Keeping it together in this fucked up world asks everything of us… I don’t know. I’m just kind of waxing poetic here… but my work and history are really weighing on me these days and I’m so tired and exhausted that our culture forces people to believe there is a “brave” way to be raped, that our culture forces people to believe that their stories aren’t real, believable, valid if they don’t respond in the “right” way, that they could be “bad” at being raped… it kills me. We are brave for continuing to get up, build relationships, take chances, go to work, make dinner, do whatever in a world that basically makes rape a promise, not a possibility.
Monokini 2.0 is a social art project that re-examines popular culture’s narrow view of a woman’s ideal appearance. We strive to expand what is accepted and considered beautiful by designing a swimwear collection for women who have gone through breast cancer. Swimwear is conventionally designed for women who haven’t suffered a mastectomy. The fact is that many women who have had one breast removed due to breast cancer don’t wish to have breast reconstruction surgery, they wish to continue their lives with one or no breasts at all.